July 13, 2007
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Controversial Topic
There is nothing more controversial than differing opinions on how to raise and train children. One of the very first “hot issues” I’ve encountered as a Mom is the virtual war between the “Scheduled” feeding Mom’s vs. the “UN scheduled” feedings. Somewhere in the middle is what I suspect to be the majority, although far less vocal women who end up doing some compromise or blend of different elements each side holds dear. To these women it’s “Whatever works for me, my baby and my family.”
Several people mentioned the book “Babywise” by Gary Ezzo to me as I asked for recommendations of various informative books to read on the subject of scheduling in regards to babies. Being so busy before Noelle was born I never got a chance to order and read it in spite of the glowing recommendations I heard. Recently I got to spend time with a fairly ardent supporter of the Ezzo’s methods. She strongly encouraged me to get Noelle on a schedule as soon as possible for her well being. This was a prompt for me to start researching to see what I could find available for free on the web regarding the Ezzo’s feeding schedule etc. To be honest everything I heard about it sounded wonderful, although most of it I felt like we already had. Noelle was sleeping 6 and 7 hours at a time from the time she was 5 weeks old. She has also been for the most part a very good, content baby which is apparently one of the things the book promises as a result of following their schedule.
Several things that I found as I did my searches caused me great concern.
I wanted to post a very brief synopsis of the apparently growing body of serious problems many have with the Ezzo’s methods. My disclaimer up front is below. My purpose for posting these things is so that perhaps someone else out there that may not be familiar at all with the Ezzo’s or their teachings will get another perspective of some of the potential problems that can arise and therefore avoid some of the grief and heartache some parents have experienced.
Disclaimer! I have not read the book “Babywise” or any other materials written from the Ezzo’s except the excerpts from their books linked on various websites. I have nothing against the Ezzo’s personally. I believe that many of the really horrible situations that have arisen from those following the Ezzo’s methods have been from parents who have taken what is taught very literally to the exclusion of basic common sense and love. I believe that many have been helped by this program and that there are many babies who have thrived and done very well while on it.
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This is an article by Matthew Aney, M.D.
http://www.ezzo.info/Aney/aneyaap.htm
Here are some quotes from the article for those who don’t have time to read the whole thing.
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such book, On Becoming Babywise, has raised concern
among pediatricians because it outlines an infant
feeding program that has been associated with failure
to thrive (FTT), poor weight gain, dehydration,
breast milk supply failure, and involuntary early
weaning. A Forsyth Medical Hospital Review Committee,
in Winston-Salem N.C., has listed 11 areas in which
the program is inadequately supported by conventional
medical practice.The Child Abuse Prevention Council
of Orange County, Calif., stated its concern after
physicians called them with reports of dehydration,
slow growth and development, and FTT associated
with the program. And on Feb. 8, AAP District IV
passed a resolution asking the Academy to investigate
“Babywise,” determine the extent of its
effects on infant health and alert its members,
other organizations and parents of its findings.I have
reviewed numerous accounts of low weight gain and
FTT associated with “Babywise” and discussed
them with several pediatricians and lactation consultants
involved….Though
“Babywise” does say, “With PDF (Parent Directed Feeding), a
mother feeds her baby when the baby is hungry,”
it also instructs parents to do otherwise. In a
question-and-answer section, parents of a 2-week-old
baby, who did not get a full feeding at the last
scheduled time and wants to eat again, are instructed
that babies learn quickly from the laws of natural
consequences. “If your daughter doesn’t eat
at one feeding, then make her wait until the next
one.”Examples
of the many other unsubstantiated medical claims
in “Babywise” include:- “Lack
of regularity [in feeding intervals] sends a negative
signal to the baby’s body, creating metabolic
confusion that negatively affects his or her hunger,
digestive, and sleep/wake cycles.” -
“Demand-fed babies don’t sleep through the
night.” -
“A mother who takes her baby to her breast
12, 15, or 20 times a day will not produce any
more milk than the mom who takes her baby to breast
six to seven times a day.” -
“Mothers following PDF have little or no
problem with the let down reflex, compared to
those who demand-feed.” -
“Colic, which basically is a spasm in the
baby’s intestinal tract that causes pain, is very
rare in PDF babies but is intensified in demand-fed
babies.” - “In
our opinion, much more developmental damage is
done to a child by holding him or her constantly
than by putting the baby down. In terms of biomechanics
alone, carrying a baby in a sling can increase
neck and back problems, or even create them.” - “Some
researchers suggest that putting a baby on his
or her back for sleep, rather than on the baby’s
tummy, will reduce the chance of crib death. That
research is not conclusive, and the method of
gathering supportive data is questionable.”
My
review of the low weight gain and FTT (Failure to Thrive) accounts associated
with “Babywise” revealed several disturbing
trends. Parents were often adamant about continuing
with the feeding schedule, even when advised otherwise
by health care professionals. They were hesitant
to tell their physicians about the schedule, making
it difficult to pinpoint the cause for the weight
gain problems. Many elected to supplement or wean
to formula rather than continue breastfeeding at
the expense of the schedule.
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One of the most disturbing things to me is how the Ezzo’s seem to have no problem mis representing truth in order to sell their books or lend credibility to what they teach.
Example below:Well,
first of all, our advice on feeding babies
is identical to the American Academy of Pediatrics…
–Gary Ezzo
in 1999 BBC television interview
September 11-13, 1998: Annual American
Academy of Pediatrics Chapter Forum passes AAP Resolution
# 53SC (98)—”Evaluating Infant Management Programs”.
It noted that the PDF feeding schedule is “inconsistent
with AAP recommendations” and that “over
100 health care professionals across the country including
19 AAP fellows have asked the Academy for feedback on
[GFI's] potentially harmful program”. It resolved
that “the Academy continually evaluate infant management
programs such as Preparation for Parenting and On Becoming
BABYWISE and regularly report its findings.”<><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><>
Here is an article by a Mom who was a strong supporter of Babywise.
http://www.ezzo.info/Voices/failed.htm<><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><>
This is the best article/concise information I was able to find.
http://www.ezzo.info/Aney/tulsakidspart1.pdf<><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><>
I welcome any and all comments!
- “Lack
Comments (9)
In my training as a lactation counselor I learned SO much more about breastfeeding/baby’s needs than is ever presented in the Ezzo’s books (2 of which I have read). I really feel that alot of our attitudes about feeding babies is associated with what our culture has taught us about eating and how much it encourages formula feeding. Breastmilk and breastfeeding are *completely* different from formula and bottle feeding and should not be treated the same. We need to stop looking into our own culture and start looking at cultures throughout the world whose families breastfeed and use attachment parenting type techniques. (I know, that is another big can of worms!!) Personally, I don’t think God intended feeding of any size humans to be such a neat little “complete package” – eg. opening a can of formula at a specified time in a specified size bottle for a specified size baby.
I agree with Danae. What is it with Americans and scheduling?? I’m sure glad I’m not allowed only a specified amount of food at set times each day… I don’t require scheduled mealtimes for myself, why in the world would I require it of an immature youngling?
I agree. Ezzo worries me. I know the typical response is “only if you treat it like a rulebook,” but two families in my church have given up on bfing because of scheduling and low milk supply.
It irritates me much. Parenting shouldn’t be that hard.
I agree with those comments. I was pitched the whole Babywise lifestyle by several friends, even told that I would be harming my baby if I did not use it. And that they would be set on a much better path if I did. But I had a friend whose husband was a pastor in a church that Ezzo was asked to leave because his system was causing problems. She cautioned me by saying that she had learned with her three children that each child is different with different needs. And that trying to hold to the Babywise system caused her to ignore those needs. She said like everything in life there are extremes and unfortunately that this approach tends to lean towards becoming more extreme than balanced. Sure, having a basic schedule is great. I even keep to a basic schedule with my toddler and infant at this point, but I am not a slave to it. Plus, we are the only society in the world that tends toward this approach. For some reason, we, even Christians, have developed a view of children of almost inconveniences it seems. Sure we must train them, it is vital and of upmost importance, but they are the ministry that God has given us at this point in our lives. We should approach our parenting like that not like so many of the parents I have observed. They want the child to be on three hour feedings or four hour feedings so they can get more done and have to deal with the baby less. They don’t understand why their baby isn’t conforming. Of course, there are plenty of parents that do it right too.
I think that we make up all these systems to make our lives easier. But with most of the couples out there waiting to have babies until it is the perfect time and enjoying their DINK (Dual income no kids) lifestyle, it is probably a shock to them to have a child. It saddens me to see our nation’s, especially the church folks’ attitude towards children. Sure the world may abort, we just chose not to have because it is not convenient for us. That is pretty sad too.
Sorry for long soap box. I think you research is great, Stephanie.
I agree with you, Steph.
I’ve been getting the “read Babywise” advice lately, too. I just bite my tongue. Why would we take breastfeeding advice from a man? And one who isn’t a Dr? And one who misues Scripture so much in his “Christian” version of the book?
I have tried to lengthen out Eric’s feedings, but he likes to eat small amounts and eats them usually every hour or so. It doesn’t seem to keep him from sleeping at night. He sleeps 5 to 6 hours at a stretch. So I just enjoy it he won’t stay this age forever. Now I jsut need to go to sleep when he does.
Thanks for posting this, Stephanie. I couldn’t agree more with your concerns on the whole Ezzo issue. From what I have observed here in my own church, the families who follow Babywise just don’t end up enjoying their babies very much. That’s the saddest part to me. =(
I have used Babywise for all three of my children and it has worked quite well for us. One of my sister in laws has used it with her 10 children and it helps with her busy day. I also have a lot of other family and friends who use it and love it. When my sister had her first baby she did not use babywise. After about a month of hem always crying and having to thrive, she started using babywise and within a week all of that changed. Most of the time I used a lot of common sense. If they did not eat much at one feeding, I would feed them earlier for their next feeding. I think sometimes the book can lead people to follow “rules”. I found it a lot easier to listen to their tape series on the book(a lot more biblical also). It was more personal and they often said you are the parent so decide what is best for your type of baby. Some of my children just needed more food, so I fed them more/earlier. And some needed more sleep, so I let them sleep past their scheduled time. I guess what I liked about it was just having somewhat of a structured life for all of us. Personally, I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer to raising an infant, I believe it is what works best for the family. My husband and I love it, we so much enjoy our children too!! My husband says he feels so much more rested for his days at work. So, I will give people some advise on how the book has helped us, but to also pray about it and do what is best for them. I also found Secrects of the Babywhisper to be helpful….It talked about different personalities of babies. I used the book more for my third. I just could not figure him out and that book had scheduled feeding, but using the type of personailty that he/she is. Sorry to make this long. I hope this helps in your decisions.
ps….we also love the Pearls teachings, which I guess can be a tough topic for some also ! God bless all!
Just passing through and thought I would comment on your critique…. the thing about “Ezzo,” “Sears,” “Brazelton,” and “Pearls” philosophies… are that they should viewed as “tools”… the only true wisdom comes from the Bible… but tools can be used to implement principles of the Bible. I would caution you not to rely so heavily on one tool and thereby miss out on the project itself… i.e. don’t go looking to the tools to be “the answer” … (and I might add – going to other ladies for answers can find you at the same point… for child rearing wisdom: God first, husband next, then godly older ladies – with grown children, books…)
As far as the “Ezzo” controversy… I have used their material for 2 of my 6 children – though the other 4 were raised with the same mindset (just not organized like the Ezzo’s did – we didn’t know of them until #5). I would have to say that the principles helped me to see a *major* problem (low gain – failure to thrive)… which I would *not* have seen otherwise (if I was demand feeding he would have been worse off – he was so placid – he was happy and content)… anyway… please be careful in how to judge what you are being told….
-A mom with 6